There Will Always Be a Hotter Chick
… and Dude for that matter
Hey Guys… You (and I, for that matter) know there will always be a hotter woman. Every man has this struggle. The question is how do you respond to your own impulses.
If the main thing that attracts you to women is how they look, then you will always have this problem. If you develop a deeper attraction to someone, then you will notice the physical beauty all around you but it won't draw you in the same way.
Also, if you don't want to settle down, then you'll keep facing this issue. (The world is full of beautiful women and your own physical desire for them is potentially insatiable!) But for many men, at some point, you decide that you want a committed relationship to learn a new skill – like mastering women's emotions (LoL) – maybe you’d like a business minded partner, or because you want a family unit. At that point, you'll want to turn off some of that attraction to other women because it gets in the way of your other goals.
Another thing to consider is that once a woman is in love with you, it really hurts her emotionally if you are always comparing her looks to other women. This female state is outlined pretty clearly in a great short book on women called, For Men Only. So if you’re with a girlfriend now yet always see hotter chicks (thinking that you could hook up with one) and know the LTR* is the one who you want in the long run but finding it a challenge to get over the PUA* vibe, what’s a guy to do?
If this is happening to you, realize that a person's actions say more about them than it does about you. Now, glancing and noticing a beautiful person is one thing. Habitually gawking with no limits, having no sense of control or respect whatsoever, going way out of one's way to ignore your spouse/LTR and noticeably stare at another person, that's different. It is inappropriate and disrespectful to everyone involved (including any children in the family who may be noticing this behavior). Be a gentleman (or lady), act mature and show respect to others and yourself. In the end, others would actually just feel sorry for the person gawking, as their behavior is clearly making them appear foolish.
Don’t plan to cheat but want to know, “how does one get over this mentality?” Begin by knowing what it means to you to be in a healthy relationship. Know what it is you really want & more importantly, are willing to give in a long-term relationship. Then, focus on what you have as opposed to what you don't have.
*LTR - Long Term Relationship
*PUA - Pick-Up Artist
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